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Sunday, January 15, 2006


what an interesting gathering i had last nite. went for dinner with johandri (my high school friend who's here for holiday), he was not alone though, there were 3 other people that i did not recognize. they didn't know one another as well, basically the only person that each of us knew was johandri the man himself. haha so these 4 strangers (including me) started to throw basic questions to get to know one another. all of us are indonesians and yes they communicated in bahasa indonesia, gosh.. i really found myself struggling, it has somehow become an unfamiliar language to me and it's just weird hearing myself =p

anyway we went to coca restaurant and yes it's expensive sigh. the food's not bad though and the whole night was actually enjoyable. a bunch of friendly ppl and i'm glad that i was able to share a bit about my life in church to one of them. he's working here in spore so maybe i can try to reach out to him more in the future.

i read something interesting again today, the book talks about 'reading people' .. well.. psychologically. 2 things that i really remember:

it's not what you say, it's how you say it

the tone is important. sometimes when we talk to another person in ways that we can't hear them personally, for example through sms or msn, we can get the wrong message.

'haha' can mean real expression of joy or it can be an awkward laughter out of nervousness or even a sneer.
'i'm fine' can be a joyful i am really fine or it can be i'm not fine but don't bother me again as i will not tell you anything.

different tone has different meaning. think again, it's always best to counsel face to face or at least on phone. cos at least we can hear the other party's voice and yes their tone. it makes a difference.

sometimes things aren't what they appear to be

we just love to jump into our own conclusions. bad habit. i think sometimes it's insecurity problem, you start to wonder and wonder.. and mostly are negative thoughts. or perhaps you make an insignificant thing to something, making a hill out of a mole.
hmm that sounds really familiar to me.. hahaha.. will i ever learn?

*livi* 10:46 PM

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